As the medium for your message, your voice takes with that message, an impression of how you are being at the time that you speak.
As your mood shifts, your voice will change in alignment with or counter to that shift… sometimes whether you want it to … or not!
Here is an exercise for you. How would you describe your voice in each of these situations. Make a note of your ideas as you consider your voice’s behaviour when…
1 Chatting with a friend over the telephone
2 Speaking up in a meeting at work
3 Having a discussion with conference delegates
Chatting with a friend: In this example, your voice may be more relaxed and at ease as you interact with your friend. Even though you cannot see them, you know them well enough to be able to assess their state-of-being throughout your conversation. And they do the same with you! As a result you move easily and comfortably through a range of states as you chat.
Speaking up in a meeting at work: In this situation your voice may behave differently depending on who is at the meeting and what is at stake during the event. You have the benefit of being able to see people as they speak. You can process how they respond to what you are saying by assessing their state-of-being through their posture and gestures as well as their voices. Depending on the subject matter and who is in the room, you could be more or less confident; more or less convincing as you speak to the topic.
Discussion with conference delegates: In this situation, the intensity of the conversation may change depending on how high the stakes are for individual delegates. The intensity of your voice, the mood you are communication and your position on the situation could also be demonstrated by your voice… as well as their voices. How well you know them and how familiar you are with their positions on a particular topic will influence how you sound.
Become aware that each time you speak, your voice transmits what you are saying, who you are being as you speak and how you are feeling as you speak
If you’ve considered this previously, and find that you don’t always like how your voice sounds, don’t despair! Rather, become aware of the richness, the diversity of impact and mood shifts in your voice.
Appreciate its range and and its ability to communicate across all media – via sight, sensation and sound. Notice too, when it works against your desired impact… Does it become high, or small, or demanding or soft, or loud or rapid or irritable? These are some indicators that demonstrate misalignment with your message. Then, take action so that you can manage it with greater ease before it lets you down. Submit a snapshot and request a conversation with Sandra.